Category Archives: Disappointment in the church

Res Ipsa Loquitur: Destructive Church Conflict Reveals Worldliness

A few weeks ago I wrote that the most frequently used search term that brings people to this site is “how to fire your pastor.” I lamented that fact because we desperately need God’s supernaturally gifted and theologically trained leaders … Continue reading

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The Acts 15 Model for Redeeming Church Conflict as a Model of Progressive Continuity Consistent with All of Scripture

Q. Why did you choose Acts 15 as the model for Redeeming Church Conflicts: Turning Crisis into Compassion and Care? A. Acts 15 records the first major conflict in a New Testament church and provides a fairly detailed account of … Continue reading

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Easter Sunday: Never Again Need There Be A Conflict Beyond the Power of Redemption

Q. In last week’s post you refer to the Acts 15 model for redeeming church conflicts as one consistent with all of Scripture. The four elements you outline—Perspective, Discernment, Leadership, and Biblical Response—are spoken of as a “progressive continuity” that … Continue reading

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Why is the rampant loss of hope a reality in most church conflicts?

One observation Tara and I make in Redeeming Church Conflicts concerns the loss of hope among believers who struggle with conflicts in the church. We spend a significant number of words on that sad dynamic and how to respond biblically. … Continue reading

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Are Your Church Relationships Otiose? (Vain. Ineffective. Of no use.)

Q. How can church-going Christians truly build the “ties that bind” and cultivate “the unity of the Spirit through the bonds of peace?” through intimate, safe, authentic relationships that will persevere through conflict? A. “Where a people prays, there is … Continue reading

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How to Find the Perfect Church

“The church is divided and broken. It is filled with sinners and hypocrites. It is not perfect and, in this life, it will never be perfect, but it is nevertheless instituted by God. God has always entrusted his gospel, the … Continue reading

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Other Things You Can Do Rather Than Fire Your Pastor

Week after week the most frequently searched topic that lands people at this website is “How to Fire Your Pastor.” If you are a regular reader of this site you may recall that I wrote a three part series under … Continue reading

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Trust is shattered when a pastor is caught in deception and overt sin.

All pastors are sinners, just like the rest of us. But some pastors sin in particularly brazen ways. These sins sometimes stay hidden for a certain period of time, but sooner or later, the truth will come to light. And … Continue reading

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How do you respond when fellow Christians REFUSE to repent / “Get the Logs out of Their own Eyes”?

Q. What do you do when you confess to someone in your church, but the person is completely unwilling to see the logs in their own eyes and / or repent / confess to you? Especially when the other person … Continue reading

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Before You Criticize the Leaders, Besmirch the Fellowship, and Stomp Out of A Church …

As a Christian mediator who works in conflicted churches, it is a normal thing for me to spend hours with people who are disgruntled with their church leadership and members. I’ve listened to furious people and heart-broken people. I’ve taken … Continue reading

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