Monthly Archives: April 2017

What Rules Govern Your Interactions with Others (Especially in Your Church Conflict)?

In the October 16, 2012, Wall Street Journal there was an article titled Big Explosions, Small Reasons.  The article reports recent research on “Why Social Rule Breakers Spark Angry Outbursts.”  I have written previously on this site about how secular research in the … Continue reading

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Every time I think about my church conflict, all I feel is hopelessness. I just don’t see anything at all to hope in!

Q: Every time I think about my church conflict, all I feel is hopelessness. I just don’t see anything at all to hope in! A. Hope in this: The longest part of our most “real” lives will be lived for … Continue reading

Posted in Excerpts from "Redeeming Church Conflicts"

One Reason Why Your Church is Losing Its Youth: Look at How (Gracelessly!) You Treat One Another

Just as I was posting Dave’s most recent article on “preserving your pastor,” my friend Melodee posted a link to this article on Facebook and I was struck by how much the two overlapped: Reaching Our Young People The article … Continue reading

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Megan Hill’s Endorsement of “Redeeming Church Conflicts”

Our family has been profoundly blessed by Megan Hill’s book on prayer: Praying Together – The Priority and Privilege of Prayer So I was profoundly blessed by her recent endorsement of Redeeming Church Conflicts (copied below). Thanks so very much, Megan! … Continue reading

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Destructive Church Conflict — The Antithesis to Our Faith

Destructive church conflict causes pain … to God. Of course, it causes pain to the people going through the church conflict too. But the pain of the antithesis to our faith is felt most by God. When his eternal children … Continue reading

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Res Ipsa Loquitur: Destructive Church Conflict Reveals Worldliness

A few weeks ago I wrote that the most frequently used search term that brings people to this site is “how to fire your pastor.” I lamented that fact because we desperately need God’s supernaturally gifted and theologically trained leaders … Continue reading

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When “Peacemaking” Causes Even More Conflicts

Q. I am afraid to go directly to the person who has seriously sinned against me as it says I should do in Matthew 18:15. I am afraid because I think by going it would make matters worse between us. … Continue reading

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