Monthly Archives: December 2014

What difference does church membership make? I do everything in my church except vote …

“I am a regular attender, not a member.” Those were the sad words I heard; another person explaining to me the nature of their relationship with the church that they had been attending for eight years. I asked her: “I … Continue reading

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Responding with Thanksgiving to Suffering and Persecution in Church Conflict

In the New Testament epistles to the church in Thessalonica, the apostle Paul answered many questions about Christ’s return. This topic was of particular concern to the Thessalonians because they were facing intense persecution and some of them thought the … Continue reading

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“Helping entrenched people is what we do and who we are.” (Pastor Whipple of Kossuth Street Baptist Church)

Dave and I were blessed this morning to read the following article by Pastor Whipple of Kossuth Street Baptist Church in Lafayette, Indiana: Redeeming Church Conflicts I especially appreciated Pastor Whipple’s encouragement for his church members to be prepared to redeem conflict … Continue reading

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Don’t Let Earthly Concerns Deny the Extravagance of the Gift

A missionary friend of mine recently sent to me his quarterly newsletter and in it told a story of Christmas past. It was a childhood event that has been etched into his memory not as a wonderful occasion but a … Continue reading

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NEVER Allow Gossip Against Church Leaders

I put a post up at my personal blog today that I thought might have a little cross-appeal here at RedeemingChurchConflicts.com. It has to do with praying for our church leaders—but really, it has to do with so much more … Continue reading

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Do You Always Have to Confess Before Confronting?

Q. Do you always have to personally confess before you confront someone in the church with their sin? If I don’t have anything to confess, but I know the other person won’t listen to me if I don’t confess something … Continue reading

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Humility and the Severity of Leader Responsibility in God’s Church

A few years ago I was engaged by a church to assist lay elders and church members work through the aftermath of a conflict which had led to the resignation of the church’s pastor. The elders admitted they had not … Continue reading

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Thank you, TheGoodBookstall.UK!

Dave and I both appreciated this review by Johnny Douglas at TheGoodBookstall.UK: Church & Ministry Theory & Resources: Redeeming Church Conflicts Thank you very much! (But just to be forthright … we both did have to look up the word … Continue reading

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Two Elements of Redeeming Church Conflict: Intentionality and Contentment

Q. How can I maintain an “eternal perspective” given the harsh realities of this church conflict? A. It is one thing to give mental assent to the concept of living from an “eternal perspective,” and quite another to actually fit … Continue reading

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Can a Whole Church Forgive a Church Leader?

Q. What does corporate forgiveness look like? Can a whole congregation forgive a church leader? A. Jim Van Yperen in his book Making Peace accurately notes that church conflicts are always about leadership. Not that all church conflicts are initially between leaders … Continue reading

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