Category Archives: Conflicts with our youth pastor

Twenty Years Without an Apology

Posted on November 2, 2018 by Tara Barthel

I heard from a friend this week (after she had made an apology to a pastor and asked his forgiveness) that the pastor was gracious, forgiving, and VERY surprised/grateful. Why surprised? Why grateful? Because, you see, as he explained: He had served in … Continue reading →

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Child Abuse in the Church: Justice Can Be Grace

Posted on October 10, 2018 by Tara Barthel

Since I linked over to it in today’s post on my personal blog, I thought I would share this post with you too: Child Abuse in the Church: Justice Can Be Grace Not only is this an extraordinarily important topic … Continue reading →

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How to Fire Your Pastor (Part 3 of 3)

Posted on February 7, 2018 by David V. Edling

Q. Sometimes, even in a mature church, a time comes when a servant-shepherd pastor must be let go. In this situation, how should the pastor and his family, and the other church leaders and members respond so that they can … Continue reading →

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How to Fire Your Pastor (Part 2 of 3)

Posted on February 7, 2018 by David V. Edling

If you’ve read last week’s blog, “How to Fire Your Pastor — Part 1,” then you know that its content only applies when the pastor is best characterized as a “hired-hand” (see John 10:12-13). In contrast, today’s post addresses the … Continue reading →

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How to Fire Your Pastor (Part 1 of 3)

Posted on February 7, 2018 by David V. Edling

Q. Getting rid of a pastor can cause a lot of conflict. What should be happening for both the pastor and other church leaders and members when everyone is figuring out if the pastor should be let go? How should … Continue reading →

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“I Already Know That!”

Posted on May 30, 2017 by Dave Edling & Tara Barthel

In my years of serving as a Christian mediator, I have been privileged to assist extraordinarily gifted men and women of great faith and world-class formal educations. In one such situation, I was sitting between two (very angry) co-senior pastors … Continue reading →

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Battered Pastors with Weary Souls

Posted on May 20, 2017 by Tara Barthel

Rev. Dr. Alfred Poirier’s doctoral dissertation at Westminster Seminary was overseen by Rev. Dr. David Powlison and published by Baker as The Peacemaking Pastor. In it, Pastor Poirier speaks candidly about his exhaustion and frustration related to ongoing struggles with conflict … Continue reading →

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Leader Conflicts: Opportunities to Model Holiness

Posted on May 5, 2017 by David V. Edling

Q. My question is about conflicts between leaders. For example: (1) Some of the elders want to use a different English translation of the Bible in worship than what we have been using and others don’t; (2) Some of the … Continue reading →

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When (Differently) Gifted Pastors Destroy the Church (Rather Than Build it Up)

Posted on May 4, 2017 by David V. Edling

This was a church conflict that never should have happened. One man was excellent at vision casting, capturing the excitement and motivating people for great things in the name of the Lord. The other was an excellent teacher. Working in … Continue reading →

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One Reason Why Your Church is Losing Its Youth: Look at How (Gracelessly!) You Treat One Another

Posted on April 22, 2017 by Tara Barthel

Just as I was posting Dave’s most recent article on “preserving your pastor,” my friend Melodee posted a link to this article on Facebook and I was struck by how much the two overlapped: Reaching Our Young People The article … Continue reading →

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