Monthly Archives: January 2015

How to Preserve Your Pastor (Parts 6 and 7): Sharing Ministry…with Friends

For the past several weeks I have been posting articles that interact with Dr. Thom Rainer’s research titled The Top Seven Regrets of Pastors based on his interviews of twenty-plus pastors who had been in Christian ministry for at least … Continue reading

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How to Preserve Your Pastor (Part 5): Failure to Understand Basic Business and Finance Issues

This is Part 5 of a seven part series interacting with Dr. Thom Rainer’s research reported in his article The Top Seven Regrets of Pastors. Today’s focus is on the problems of the church being in the world—specifically, that a … Continue reading

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How to Preserve Your Pastor (Part 4): Family Time

[This is part 4 of a seven part series on How to Preserve Your Pastor. I have organized this series around Dr. Tom Ranier’s article: The Top Seven Regrets of Pastors, in which he interviews 22 seasoned pastors. The top regret of … Continue reading

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How to Preserve Your Pastor (Part 3): Failure to Exercise Faith

This is part 3 of a seven part series on How to Preserve Your Pastor. I have organized this series around Dr. Tom Ranier’s excellent article: The Top Seven Regrets of Pastors. The top regret of pastors has to do with the … Continue reading

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How to Preserve Your Pastor (Part 2)—Pastoral Over-Concern about Critics: The Relationship Between “Fear of Man” and the Failure of Accountability

This is part 2 of a seven part series on How to Preserve Your Pastor. I have organized this series around Dr. Tom Ranier’s excellent article: The Top Seven Regrets of Pastors. The top regret of pastors has to do … Continue reading

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How to Preserve Your Pastor (Part 1) — Lack of Practical Training for Local Church Ministry: The Problem of Misguided and Misstated Expectations

My three part series “How to Fire Your Pastor” sadly continues to remain the most frequently searched title that lands people on this website. I hope the title of this series will change that statistic! Recently, Dr. Thom Rainer, president … Continue reading

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How can I even consider reconciliation when there has been no justice?

Q. How can I even consider reconciliation when there has been no justice? A recent situation has left our church in great turmoil. We have been encouraged to live at peace and reconcile with those who have gotten away with … Continue reading

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Even People Who Need Help Can Appear Righteous and Mature

Just as 1 Corinthians 2:14 warns us not to expect a person who has not placed their faith in Christ for eternal life to respond biblically to life’s situations, so too, Ezekiel 14:4 warns those who would seek wisdom from … Continue reading

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“One reason people cling to the hurts they have received is that it gives them an excuse for being angry …”

My friend and one of my heroes of the faith, Ajith Fernando, graciously gave me permission to share this with you. It includes some of his key teachings from Reclaiming Love: Radical Relationships in a Complex World (which I just ordered and am … Continue reading

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My church is having HUGE conflicts over homeschooling vs. public vs. Christian education. How should I respond?

Q: “A huge conflict has been going on in our church for many months over the education of children.  Those who home-school their children believe the church should be investing more resources (money and  time and effort) in support of … Continue reading

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