Category Archives: Abusive churches

In Church Conflict (as in War), The Malice of the Wicked is Reinforced by the Weakness of the Virtuous

Over the holidays, I began reading Winston Churchill’s Memoirs of the Second World War (the abridged version not knowing if I would live long enough to read his entire six volume set!).  In one of the opening paragraphs Churchill writes … Continue reading

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What should we do when our church’s leadership is boldly rewarding and promoting their own “inner circle”?

Q: We have all heard of “cliques” in the church, but what should one do when it becomes obvious that the church’s leadership culture boldly rewards, acknowledges, and promotes their own elite “inner circle?” This is occurring while at the … Continue reading

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Child Abuse in the Church: Justice Can Be Grace

Since I linked over to it in today’s post on my personal blog, I thought I would share this post with you too: Child Abuse in the Church: Justice Can Be Grace Not only is this an extraordinarily important topic … Continue reading

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Making the Decision to Leave Your Church

A few weeks ago in response to my blog about church membership, member vows, and what might be a valid reason to leave one’s church, a reader wrote that she didn’t think I answered the question. She also expressed her opinion that … Continue reading

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The Greatest Danger to Your Pastor’s Spiritual Growth

I have always believed that the highest character trait of a Christian is humility. There are many statements in the Bible that support my position. Here are just a few: This is the one I esteem: he who is humble … Continue reading

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Church Discipline: Also Pursuing the Sinned-Against

In Chapter 12 of Redeeming Church Conflicts (“Accountability We Should Cherish”), Dave and I  recommend a wonderful book on church discipline by Jonathan Leeman entitled The Church and the Surprising Offense of God’s Love: Reintroducing the Doctrines of Church Membership and Discipline. As I … Continue reading

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RedeemingLinks: What Spiritual Abuse IS and Is NOT

Tim Challies and Bob Kellemen do an excellent job discussing what spiritual abuse IS and is NOT in this two-part series: Spiritual Abuse More on Spiritual Abuse

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Should we stop saying, “The church hurt me?”

An excellent post by Pastor Thabiti Anyabwile: Should we stop saying “The church hurt me?” Pastor Thabiti starts by exploring what we really mean by “the church”: the church universal? The local church? The church’s leadership? An individual or small … Continue reading

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