Category Archives: Disappointment in the church

Keeping First Things First … Peacefully

Question from a Redeeming Church Conflicts Reader: We are a solid, Bible-believing church in a large, multi-racial, multi-ethnic community. I love the church but recently it seems like non-essential and tangential issues are being focused on and elevated over the church’s … Continue reading

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Church Conflict: Inconsistent Hovering between Two Irreconcilable Worldviews

 Question: My church is in the middle of a very serious conflict. I have seen people say and do things I thought only unbelievers would say or do. What role does unbelief play in church conflict, if any? Thank you! … Continue reading

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The Power of Paradox

One question I have received on a number of occasions has been stated this way: “We are trying so hard to apply biblical peacemaking principles but nothing seems to work. Those people who were angry and unreasonable are still angry … Continue reading

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RedeemingLinks: What Spiritual Abuse IS and Is NOT

Tim Challies and Bob Kellemen do an excellent job discussing what spiritual abuse IS and is NOT in this two-part series: Spiritual Abuse More on Spiritual Abuse

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Five Really Bad Reasons to Leave Your Church

Worth the read! Five Really Bad Reasons to Leave Your Church (HT: The Aquila Report)

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Five Ways to be Unsatisfied with Your Church

The Aquila Report pointed to an excellent article today that we both commend to you: Five Ways to Be Unsatisfied with Your Church  

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Should we stop saying, “The church hurt me?”

An excellent post by Pastor Thabiti Anyabwile: Should we stop saying “The church hurt me?” Pastor Thabiti starts by exploring what we really mean by “the church”: the church universal? The local church? The church’s leadership? An individual or small … Continue reading

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What should a wife do when her husband has conflicts with the church leaders?

Q. What do I do when my husband has called out a leader in sin (following Mt. 18); brought it to the church (1 Tim. 5:20); and the church is either in denial or is choosing to overlook it and … Continue reading

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Disappointed with Your Church?

Dave is just back from a week-long conflicted church intervention, so he is busy with related post-conciliation work this week. But Kevin DeYoung has a classic three-part series on his blog addressing disappointment in the church that will hopefully fill … Continue reading

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