Monthly Archives: January 2015

My church’s new fundraising campaign makes me uncomfortable—should I just leave my church?

Q: “Our church is in a building program and we are also seeking to expand the number and size of our outreach programs. While I think this is all good in theory it seems that realistically we won’t have the … Continue reading

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What should I do if our new youth pastor seems reckless and irresponsible?

Q: “My friend at church who has two teenage daughters in the youth program has come to me for advice. I am not sure what I should tell her since I don’t have first-hand knowledge of what is going on. … Continue reading

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What should a wife do when her husband has conflicts with the church leaders?

Q. What do I do when my husband has called out a leader in sin (following Mt. 18); brought it to the church (1 Tim. 5:20); and the church is either in denial or is choosing to overlook it and … Continue reading

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Two Elements of Redeeming Church Conflict: Intentionality and Contentment

Q. How can I maintain an “eternal perspective” given the harsh realities of this church conflict? A. It is one thing to give mental assent to the concept of living from an “eternal perspective,” and quite another to actually fit … Continue reading

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When (Differently) Gifted Pastors Destroy the Church (Rather Than Build it Up)

This was a church conflict that never should have happened. One man was excellent at vision casting, capturing the excitement and motivating people for great things in the name of the Lord. The other was an excellent teacher. Working in … Continue reading

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What do you do when the people keep leaving and the pastor doesn’t seem to be taking their reasons as valid?

Q. What do you do when the church seems to be led in a direction that isn’t building up the congregation, in fact, people keep leaving and the pastor doesn’t seem to be taking the reasons as valid, just that they … Continue reading

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The WRONG Question: What Should I do NEXT in this Church Conflict? (Learn the RIGHT question to ask …)

One of the most frequent questions I have heard over the years while consulting with churches in conflict has been “What should I do next?” Usually, that question should have been “What should I have done first rather than act … Continue reading

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